If you have experienced anger for being a woman, you should read this

Archaic patriarchal beliefs will persist for years but you can’t let negative emotions consume you

I once met this wise person who told me that there is nothing wrong with anger, that it is normal — but it is how we express the anger that makes a difference.

Having been angry for years, he told me that I would not stop at will, but it was possible to change. He told me to think about a few things when I get angry, which can be challenging in the heat of the moment, so I decided to write them down to look at when I get mad.

“Ask if it is worth it.”

“How is this anger benefitting me now?”

“Do not react, no matter how mad you feel-hold it in and be patient.”

“Put your phone away.”

We have all become more impulsive about the need to express anger. In this digital world, it means expressing it via instant messages or social media, angry Tweets that you cannot take back.

I thought holding things in was a sign of weakness, but sometimes it is a sign of intelligence.

Often, I have regretted the things said and texted when I was angry. So, practicing patience is one of the best pieces of advice for anger management. It allows me to…