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Every Useful Thing My Best Friend Has Ever Told Me
About a year ago, my best friend came to visit me because she knew I was having a difficult time. I told her I was unhappy and felt guilty about how my life had turned out because of the decisions I had made. I told her I wished I could go back in time and change things.
I lived with this constant fear that no matter what choice I made, I would be unhappy with it.
My best friend told me that I couldn’t think like that because I was making it impossible for myself to be happy. She told me that when we plan in life, we have to fully commit to it and not kind of commit to it. She said the same applies to all life decisions, be it a move or a relationship or a job.
She said if I kept wondering what if, I would never be able to find happiness; instead, she told me to focus on what is.
She told me that we choose what we choose and it is not going to help anyone if we keep hoping for the best without accepting the choice we have made; she told me to try to find the good in what I have chosen.
She told me wherever I decide to live, accept the lifestyle of the place, and be open to adapting. She said I cannot choose to live in the woods and complain about the lack of cosmopolitan restaurants, just as I cannot choose to live in a big city and complain that I miss the…
